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My Bathroom-#AKWriting Challenge

I’ve been sorely irresponsible when it comes to this challenge, and I could make a million excuses but I won’t. Instead I’ll just jump in when I can and since I love potty humor, I figured this would be an excellent place to begin.

My bathroom is not my favorite room in the house! 

We’ve been looking at houses for about three years because our bathroom and our kitchen are often the source of much profanity in our house as our boys are on the cusp of becoming much bigger teenage, adult-sized people. Our master bathroom is the size of a closet, and even though we have two and a half baths, I would kill for a Jack and Jill sink and a beautiful big bathroom with a huge bathtub that had jets and room to read in. I would seriously never leave my house.

The trade off is that we love our home, our land, and our privacy. Even though the bathroom and kitchen is small, we STILL love our home. If we could move our home and yard, blow off the back of our house to make the kitchen and bathrooms bigger, it would be a complete win for all involved!

That’s my potty story and I’m sticking to it! 


Being An Author

I never realized it before but I was an author even long before I had books in print. Instead of writing the stores down, I would just write them in my head, one right after the other. Unable to quiet the noise in my brain, there were often times when I felt like I was losing my mind. But I’ve found that since I’ve been writing, life actually seems clearer without the residual noise that comes from having all of those extra thoughts rolling around.

It’s funny how being an author has changed me. I’m not yet prolific (three books published, one in the editing process, and one about 1/3rd of the way written), or on the NY Times Bestsellers list (A girl can dream…), or even very well-known (Jennifer Sivec… “Never heard of her!”). BUT, I am more at peace with myself than I’ve ever been.

After being alive for (ahem!) several decades, I finally feel as though all of my important pieces have been discovered.

It’s been nearly two years since I’ve published my first book, Leaving Eva. I thought that publishing a book would be like having a birthday. I had the anticipation that I would feel different after reaching this momentous milestone in my life. But after I published Leaving Eva, I didn’t feel like an author right away, at all. Instead, I was almost embarrassed anytime anyone brought it up and I was constantly worried that if they hated my book they would look at me differently (writer neurosis). I wasn’t even sure what being an author would feel like, I was just convinced (like birthdays) it would feel different. I kept waiting for it to hit me and wasn’t sure if I would feel it after my first book  or after my tenth, though I wasn’t even sure I could get to writing two.

Finally, after three books published and another one “on the way” (yes, it’s like giving birth), I FINALLY find myself settling into this new role, realizing it isn’t just a passing whim or just an experiment in life. I realize that writing is here to stay and that I can fit it into my busy life and make it a permanent part of me. I struggled with making that commitment for a while wondering if I would be too busy and if it would eventually end up on the list of things that “just didn’t work out”, in my life.

It’s been challenging rotating roles: wife, mom, full-time career (that I love), and writer. There have been many long days and nights, and moments when I’ve wondered whether I would be able to do it all. But I’m finally figuring out that each role fulfills a different part of me and makes the other one so much better. I’m more fulfilled from the inside, which makes more productive and complete on the outside.

I finally understand what being an author is all about. It’s quite simply about writing, and nothing else. While there are many other things involved in selling books, without the writing there is nothing else. I’ve set some goals for myself this year, to center myself more around the writing in order to become a better writer. They involve blogging, newsletters, and simply writing my books. After all, that is why I became an author, so I could write, which is what I love to do.

Now I wake up and life makes much more sense. And despite the many long days and nights, and constantly juggling roles, I feel utterly fortunate to get to live this busy, far from perfect, but very full-life! And for the first time in my life, I finally feel as though I am what I have always been… an author!


Day 27 Old Dog, New Tricks

I LOVE LOVE LOVE learning new things!

I’ve learned so many new things in my lifetime that I’m afraid I’ve forgotten half of it. Learning is exciting, exhilarating, and FUN! I didn’t always feel this way but as I get older I see it as a way of reinventing myself.

Whether it’s learning a new way to parent, put on eyeliner, cook, clean, or write, I love learning just about anything. I don’t want to be the same person in ten years from now and I’m certainly not the same as I was ten years ago. I’ve evolved and grown and I hope that I’m better, smarter, and so much more than I was. Some of my learning has been honed through deep pain, the kind you think will destroy you. The kind of pain that seems endless at the time and changes you infinitely. But most of my learning has been been simply from having an open heart and mind.

I revel in any amount of learning big or small. Even today I got to learn something new in the past couple of days… Spotify. I even made playlists and everything. It was definitely fun! The link for my current work in progress, I Run to You, is below.

I’m not an old dog yet, but I hope that if I ever get to be 80, I’ll still love to learn new things!

Laughter~the Best Medicine

Today I laughed. A lot.

I laughed so hard and so much that I was exhausted when I was done. I almost needed a nap. I find that this tends to happen when I’m with family. This part of the family I’ve only been a part of for about fifteen years, but it feels like I’ve known them all of my life.

We are a bunch of irreverent, loud, tell-it-like-it-is, hilarious photo bombers. We fight, disappoint, text, cry, make fun, drink wine, and celebrate each other.

And we laugh.

I realize as I get older that there truly is no better balm for the soul, than laughter. I used to take life so seriously. Everything seemed urgent, dire, and necessary. But part of what I’ve learned from this crazy family, and am still learning, is to lighten up, loosen up, and have fun.

Sadness and anger used to be my muses. The happier I am, the more I struggle to write what I’ve always known. I worry that as I seek to find my zen, that I’ll lose my angst completely and forget how to write.

But laughter inspires me toward different stories, ones I haven’t even imagined yet. And while my muse is no longer shrouded in darkness, she’s still there. And she’s tugging at me to write something…

I am thankful for laughter. It’s healed and strengthened me, and given me perspective. I highly recommend letting go, having fun, and laughing as much as possible. Surround yourself with people who like to laugh, do some photo bombing, watch Funniest Home Videos-especially the segments of people who fall down or get hit in the nuts. Try spending some time with a spirited four year old who is just discovering the world, put a cat on a vibrating chair pad and see what he does, watch a comedy, read a funny book, or do some people watching with a friend after a couple of drinks.

Life is hard. So laugh it off every now and again. Because sometimes, it’s the only thing that you can do!

Blog Challenge Day 15-Timeline of my day

Every day is a new day for me.  A different day. 

I don’t have a job with set hours, so I’m off during the week sometimes and sometimes I work really late. 

But here is a general timeline for my crazy life…

5:30 am-hit snooze and try not to piss off my husband.  My intent is to work out, but then I hit snooze or just set the alarm for 6:00 am.

6:00 am-hit snooze again, try to sleep for ten more minutes after I sleepily check every virtual method of communication possible (email, facebook, twitter, facebook author page, blog page etc).


6:30-7:30  Wake up the Hubby.  Wake up the kids.  Get everyone up, coffee made, dogs outside, breakfast made, everyone out the door.

7:40 Kids dropped off for the day

8:00 Heading to work. 

8:30 Talk to people, work all day, do all of my grown up job things. 

6:30-7 Home, Dinner, Clean up, hang out with the family, sometimes I get to write while I’m hanging out with them, or blog, or edit, or make notes. 

9:30 Kids go to bed (summertime), chill with the hubby

10:30-11:00 Write until my head hits the keyboard and wakes me up or I wake myself up because I have a huge crick  in my neck from falling asleep sitting up..

There are times that my day consists of actually getting to work out, cooking, cleaning, playing baseball, watching baseball, writing, reading, and if I’m really lucky~Grocery shopping 🙂 

Throughout the day, my brain is always moving and I feel like I’m always engaged in life, sometimes too engaged. Sometimes I have to just give life a rest and so I drive home in complete silence just to be able to detox from the craziness of my mind and of Life. It may seem like my days are pretty boring, but I love it, and I’m happy that I get to live my life.  There have been days days that it wasn’t quite so easy, so I am thankful that despite the craziness, it’s pretty low risk, but high reward.  ❤



Blog Challenge Day 8

The question for today is:  What’s in your Handbag?

The question that I have is “Which Handbag?”  I currently have about 3 of them.  So here is a list of everything that I carry:

1.  About 8 different lipsticks

2.  3 or 4 tubes of Burts Bees

3.  change ( a lot of it)

4.  Ibuprofen

5.  Gum

6.  Altoids

7.  Listerine Spray

8.  Listerine travel size (can we say obsessed?)

9.  Vitamins

10.  Pens

11.  Cell phone

12.  Cell phone charger

13.  Bills

14.  Highlighter

15.  Sharpie

16.  Hand lotion

17.  Makeup bag

18.  Hairspray

19.  Bobby pins

20.  Bandaids

21.  Granola bar

22.  PeptoBismol tablets

Ummmmm….I think that is about it.  As you can see I have a lip obsession and a breath obsession.  And I like to be prepared…just in case 🙂